One of the main reasons that both men and women want to get into a relationship is a fear of being alone. Yet, any relationship that is based on fear is destined to be a very unhappy and unfulfilling relationship. Until you can learn to enjoy your own company you will constantly find yourself getting into relationships that are or end up based on fear. When you are NOT comfortable being alone, you ultimately end up giving your power to someone else and end up holding a grudge against that person because they have what you want your own personal power and control. People who are not comfortable with themselves unknowingly stop themselves from not only being the best person they can be but from experiencing deep levels of intimacy with others as well. The fear of being alone is so great that at time you will choose to stand with the crowd even when you think the crowd is wrong. How do you even begin to become comfortable with yourself? The first step is to admit that we are all broken, even though we are all capable of extraordinary things. Once you realize that you have strengths and weakness just like everyone else and acknowledge your weaknesses instead of trying to hide them. Hiding your weaknesses takes up more energy than it does to work to overcome them or learn to live with them. The only true way to be comfortable with you is to spend time alone with yourself. Once you have mastered being alone you will be on your way to great achievements and relationships in your life. |
