My people have a very interesting concept rooted in the cycles of life. In this ancient teaching, we are told that to fully celebrate life and feel alive, we must approach life with all our three faces together: the face of our childhood, the face of our youth and the face of our adulthood. Our three faces keep us alive and energized, once we lose the ability to carry all these three faces together we live a life of the living dead.

1. Our child face, the face of wonder and magic

Our child face is that part of us that sees wonder and magic all around us. It is the part of us that is joyful, playful, intuitive, dreams and desires -there are no limits, anything is possible. Our child face is open to possibilities and to outcomes and expands our being.

Let yourself go and just dream. What if you could just have what you wanted and wished for? What would your life look like, feel like? How would you make that person feel intensely loved, appreciated and supported? How exciting and fulfilled would your life be? Raise your expectations. Believe that you deserve the best. Armed with your dream and vision keep your heart and mind open to a partner who holds similar dreams and vision of life. Rather than being focused on this is how a relationship SHOULD look like, bring forward your child face which says I wonder what we will create together. Sometimes it takes the eyes of a child to emerge from our narrow-mindedness and limitations to embrace the magical person right in front of our nose.

2. Our youth face, the face of passion and desire

The face of our youth is that part of us that is lives with fire of passion and desire to express who we are. Its that part of us that holds our sensuality, passion, spontaneity, unpredictability and vitality. It is the part of us that is highly energized, creative, motivated and inspired.

Tap into our youthful energy and lets have some fun mindset, take advantage of all the fun ways available all around you to meet compatible singles.

1. Accept invitations that come your way, even if it means going solo. You might just have a good time and wont know unless you go 2. Start a new tradition, something that befits your single life. If youve recently become single, there is no gain in longing for what once was, but rather much joy in exploring what is and what can be. Get together with your single friends, ask them to bring along one or two platonic friends, relatives or co-workers of the opposite sex. Add spice to the party with some interesting get-to-know games. Conversation will flow and you just never know who showed up right at your own doorstep. 3. Do something outside yourselfsomething for someone else. There is something so attractive and magnetic about somebody doing something for say a lonely senior, homeless or disadvantaged child. Not only are you helping the less fortunate, you might just meet him/her doing exactly the same thing.

If you find a person who shares your dreams, has the same attitude, passion and vision about life and is as concerned about your happiness and your pursuit of your lifes dreams, as he/she is about his/her own, chances are you have found your soul mate.

3. Our elder's face , the face of insight and wisdom

Our elders face, inner voice, inner mentor, realized self or as we say in Swahili mzee is the part of us that is strong and wise and comes with age and insight. It is that part of us that encompass the concerns of a larger worldview, is meditative, reflective and is a source of courage. It is the knowing part of us simply waiting to be listened to and guide us to people and situations where love connections can be made.

Tap into your elders face to truly understand what intimate relationships are all about and stay focused on what matters most to you and your future. Use your elders face to reflect on how far youve come, where you are now on your quest for your soul mate, and what you need to do to allow love to find you. Take time to work on yourself, and all facets of your life. Lose a few pounds if you need to, clean your apartment, attend a self-empowerment seminar, spend more time in mediation, connect with family and friends. The more you expand yourself, the more potential partners you will meet who mirror you in every facet of life and bring you closer to your soul mate.

Make a conscious commitment to be conscious, aware and alive. Enjoy the sensuality of the moment. Avoid obsessing on what should have, could have, might have, instead focus on what is NOW. Each person, encounter and each relationship is unique. Allow yourself to consciously explore each person and each relationship.

And just a little bit more doze of African ancient wisdom, always remember:

1. When it begins, it is the right time

2. Whoever shows up, is exactly the right person

3. Whatever happens, it is the only thing that could have happened

4. When its over, its OVER.