There is no polite or easy way of saying this but unless you are prepared to work as a team then there is absolutely no point to marriage. One of the most common marriage problems that you see is couples who have committed to each other (supposedly for life) and yet still believe that their personal freedom remains unchanged.

Marriage just isn't like that, marriage is a two way street, couples are supposed to work together, support each other, respect each other and resolve any problems that life might throw at them, together. Yet it's really common for partners to just go ahead and do whatever they want without giving any thought what their spouse or family might think.

In some ways loosing sight of the partnership is closely akin to the common marriage problem that links most other marriage problems together, the inability to communicate.

It is really easy to do your own thing without giving any consideration to even the person you are supposed to love most. It's a common trait in many marriages for one or both partners to only consider number one. It's a common marriage problem for one person to get so fixed on what they want to do that they loose sight of what's reasonable, acceptable and truly important.

It's quite understandable that marriage doesn't mean the loss of individuality and that just because you are married is doesn't mean that you still have goals and ambitions in life. What marriage does mean that you have to perhaps accept that what you want to do might just need to change a fraction or that you may need to reach some kind of compromise or tackle a problem from a different angle. The ability to retain the marriage partnership, but still achieve, is like most common marriage problems, it just requires consideration, thought, a little effort and the ability to communicate.

Such words seem harsh but in many cases unfortunately prove to be very true with it being common for couples to adopt a totally inflexible approach to marriage and marriage problems. Time after time you come across that don't care attitude that is totally one sided and completely fixed on individual rather than joint needs.