If the fire is gone from your sex life, one or both of you better get more creative about your sexual fantasies. Here are some things you can do:

Surprise him or her with a picnic at work or a rendezvous call from a motel after work.

Rent a limousine for a few hours and make love in it.

Exchange apartments with another couple for an evening.

Create delicious anticipatory anxiety by going out on a limb, and doing something that makes you nervous, like meeting him for dinner with nothing on under your coat, and making sure he knows it. The mind delights in naughtiness and no one is harmed.

Read a romance novel together, or watch steamy TV or videos.

Stop acting like adults. "Be as Little Children - Play.

Use candles for a romantic atmosphere, bath together, swim nude, use incense, play music, give each other massages, try naked sun bathing at a nudists beach, with appropriate sun-block of course.

Keep a dream book for each of you in which you put small medium and large adventures you fantasize. Small are a few hours, medium are an overnight or weekend, large are vacations of a week or more. Look into each others book or ideas on how to keep passion in your "rut" marriage. Use your playful side to live joyously.

Write down your fantasies about sex play and exchange the lists or letters and write a response back about how you feel (feminine) and think (masculine) about each others fantasies and desires. Great guys deserve fun, with sexy, sensuous, wonderful women like you. And you deserve GREAT SEX.

Copywrite - Sandra Harmon - 2005